Mary Photo

Welcome! I’m Mary Long and I am the Founder of Herstory Network.

I am absolutely convinced that the healing of this world will be brought about by women, but first we have to heal ourselves. We can no longer wait for someone to rescue us, we must rescue ourselves. How do we do that? Together. We do it together. By going within. By asking questions about why we believe what we believe. By challenging the status quo and refusing to be silent any longer.
We all have a voice that needs to be heard and we all have a right to be heard. After the Women’s March I made a promise to myself that I would no longer allow fear to keep me quiet about the things that really mattered, and this website is one step in keeping that promise.

Beauty is Pain

Every day women squeeze their feet into high-heeled shoes that hurt their feet. Think about that for a minute. Long ago, some designers decided that high heels are a fashion ‘must’ and sold that belief to the rest of us.

We talk about how ‘shoe crazy’ we are and the designer heels we must have, regardless of the fact that most of these shoes are torture devices for our feet.

Does it sound sane to you to spend hundreds of dollars on an item that causes you discomfort and pain?

Are we so willing to be fashion lemmings that we blindly accept what we’re told is ‘in’ regardless of the comfort or cost to us?

We support the fashion industry, not the other way around. If we respected ourselves enough to refuse to purchase heels that hurt our feet, the designers would create a shoe that was not only stylish, but comfortable.

Read More »

The Reckoning

I’ve heard you say you’re sick of hearing about the #metoo/timesup movement. I’ve read your posts on facebook longing for the good old days when people posted pictures of their cats and the meal they were about to eat. You say you understand that it’s important, but how long do we have to keep talking about it? It’s such a drag.

I understand the desire to go back to pretending these things aren’t happening. Burying our heads in the sand in order to accept the unacceptable can be an effective coping mechanism. But what price do we pay for this faux peace?

I’m thinking about this as I recover from a minor surgical procedure. In particular, I’m thinking about the words the doctor said as I came out of anesthesia. “The condition you have is something we find most common in women who have been sexually assaulted,” he said.

Read More »